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Inadequate-Guest Post by LeRon Barton-Giveaway #StraightDope

Posted By on March 14, 2013

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What Makes You Stronger welcomes LeRon L. Barton who is on tour with At the Water Cooler Virtual Book Tours promoting his first title, Straight Dope: A 360 Degree Look Into American Drug Culture. Please enjoy this guest post by LeRon in which he shares his response to his and one of my favorite quotes. I thought it quite appropriate for this site because when we deal with illness, whether it is ours or that of a loved one, there comes a moment when we undoubtedly feel inadequate.


by LeRon L. Barton

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate but….

We are truly amazing. I think many people do not believe how great they are. When I was dating my ex (but totally awesome) girlfriend, she would always say that I was afraid of success, and I would be totally bewildered by that. Think about it, who would be afraid of achieving their goals, their dreams, totally triumphant over everything that they wanted. But then as I thought about and thought about (there was a lot of thought into this Ha!), I realized she was right (this was a common thing in our relationship). I did have a fear of success. What if I did achieve my goals? My life would totally change. Fear! Oh the fear. Think about it: Everything you have worked for you would have gotten, and that scares the crap out of some people. Some of it is because we don’t think we could ever accomplish our goals and the other would be because we do not deem ourselves worthy.

When I was younger, I never thought I was worthy. Why? Well there were a couple of things: I was teased because of the way I looked. I had a big head, I mean I couldn’t fit certain hats (I still have that problem darn it!), I was of a darker complexion, I talked very proper because my Mom made us read CONSTANTLY (thanks Mom), and because I was a little on the clumsy side (yep). So naturally teasing makes you feel a little insecure. When I started out writing, I would always say to myself, “Is this good enough?” “Am I as good as so and so…” And that train of thought would kill me. One day I was talking to my Mother about something and had said, “I don’t know if this is going to be good enough…” She interrupted me with the quickness (very fast she is) and said, “LeRon, there is no room in your mind for self doubt.” I would like to say that after that moment I stopped thinking like that, but I didn’t. It took awhile, but then I realized that I am great at what I do and there is no need to doubt myself. Why? It is a total waste of time. And from there came the realization that I am worthy of greatness.


HCG: Really?

Posted By on January 30, 2013

At some point in time in our lives we’ve all heard our share of platitudes:

  • Big things come in little packages
  • Good things come to those who wait
  • Patience is a virtue
  • It’s the small things that make a big difference
  • A little goes a long way
  • Less is more

Somehow, when I read or hear these things, I can’t help feeling a sense of inadequacy. In fact in some way I can directly attribute them in some personal way to a possible dig or cut at my personality, my sense of style, how much I eat, how much I weigh or the size I am.

Now maybe I’m a tad sensitive and if not, someone gimme a little comment luv and let me know how you feel about it, but I know that “sticks and stones” is a myth because I have been hearing the word big and/or tall directed at me since I was a child. In no way was it intended as a derogatory statement…however, I interpreted it that way and it became a self-fulfilled prophecy.

I believe that we have a problem with size. We shrink everything down to the smallest common denominator that we can…for example HCG…really? It stands for Human Chorionic Gonadotropin. So, it’s a little long in the tooth, wave it around a bit and guess what, we will get the hang of it and even remember it.

Anyway, I digress, in that abbreviation is the solution for many of us, if we choose to take it. That naturally produced hormone helps the body to break down stored fat so that we may break past the weight threshold that has held us hostage for years and become a healthier version of ourselves.

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